What can I do about overcoming feelings about the rape?
The rape may still bother you long after your body has healed. Here are some common reactions:
- „What did I do wrong?“
- „It happened so long ago... Why can't I just forget about it?“
- „How DARE he have done that to me!“
- „If nobody else knows, maybe I can forget what happened.“
It is important for a woman who has been raped to talk to someone or to do something to help herself feel better after the rape - every woman needs to find her own way to heal. For some women, this can mean performing a ritual. For others it means trying to punish the rapist, or working to prevent other women from being raped. Whatever you do, be patient with yourself and ask others to be patient, too. It may take a long time before you feel better, but talking with someone you trust, or who has also survived rape, can help you to heal.